Building a Relationship with The Unknown

Written by Kate Wildrick, January 15, 2025

The Unknown. For many, this place has been something we have been conditioned to avoid at all costs. It has been deemed as an isolating and vast frontier where time and space operate differently. When here, many feel stuck, uncomfortable, irritated and full of anxiety, as an intense longing to return to something familiar takes hold. Although this place may seem dark and terrifying, it is also a place where many gifts and opportunities reside. The Void, as it is also know, offers us space to step away from the celebrated and familiar territory that is accompanied by customary reactions, unchallenged narratives and predictable outcomes that define the perimeters that assert who and who we cannot be and become. When we focus and fixate on returning to something familiar, we unknowingly rob ourselves of a huge gift and opportunity to engage with possibility and the imaginal realm.

In being here myself many times, I recall intense periods where life feels oddly suspended. The once tried and true ways that initiated movement and change no longer work. The stillness and stagnancy become unsettling, especially for those who want to help but do not know how. It can be both painful and liberating and yet when one emerges from this liminal space, they are forever changed.

THE DARK NIGHT OF THE SOUL

In 2009, I found myself falling into the Void. It was a place I had never encountered for long durations. As a very driven person, my secret formula for success was to push through. However, when that failed, the only tools I had were ones that scrutinized and attacked my inability to get back on track and progress forward. What I did not know at the time was that the work I was doing was far bigger than I realized. In fact, it was an initiation into stepping into my true self. In order for that to happen, I had to face the false truths I had internalized along with the lies I had been living. My ego cracked and began piece by piece to fall away. As I lost my marriage, business and support system, I found myself in a deep depression where I was unable to work regularly and provide for myself. As hard as I tried to go back to work I knew how to do in the corporate world and be the person I once was to survive, I found myself experiencing even more setbacks and soul crushing experiences. Death was always on my mind.

Friends and family watched in sadness and even disgust. My illogical choices and uncharacteristic behavior were deeply concerning. As many tried to help and offer up advice, my situation remain unchanged. Several stepped back and away from me and as I felt the sting of abandonment, I also started to feel something deep within me stir. The yearning to be loved and accepted as I was not for who I wasn’t began to surface. As I looked around for those who could hold space for me to be where I was at and work through what I was navigating, I longed for something I never had and could not name. For I had never been here before. Not like this.

It took seeing a shaman to help me understand what I was truly facing and dealing with. The message that was brought back to me in striking visceral images spoke directly to my soul and hinted of a deep knowing within that affirmed that the path I was on was intentional and that I was going against the grain of myself and the world. Here, I found one person who could provide me with an explanation and narrative that saw another side of what I was going through. That changed everything.

In peering into the Unknown, she was able to see that on another level, I wanted something more from life. In order to make room for something new, I had to un-become who I was. I had to let go of my world and those in it along with the obligations and ideals that anchored them into an identity that I was told to be and reality that I was expected to operate within. With this new understanding, I was able to embrace the process and surrender into discovering my authentic self. I learned a great deal about myself and the world during the three years I was there and I am forever grateful for that experience, as I have learned that the Void can be an incredible place to intentionally go to do deep and big work, especially when it comes to healing, integration and the embodiment of new aspects and qualities needed to support your dreams and ambitions.

In developing a relationship with the Unknown, you have a chance to mindfully access a space that offers infinite possibilities. Given that this space operates differently from the physical reality that we live within, we can access different potentials that can:

• Aid in healing (physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually).
• Prune away unhelpful attributes, characteristics, thoughts, patterns, etc. that keep in one operating from a disempowered or inauthentic state.
• Integrate parts of ourselves that can work in an aligned way to generate new outcomes, experiences and manifestations.
• Access other knowledge and wisdom that are helpful and useful to our growth and development.
• Uncover problematic areas that can stifle growth or erode away at our health and vitality.
• Heal generational wounds and trauma.
• Embody new aspects and mindsets that aid in the development of a new self and/or identity.

WORKING WITH THE VOID

The work I do takes me and those I work with directly to this space. Here, we intentionally work with the Unknown to alter one’s reality and mindfully expand one’s consciousness to entertain, pursue and manifest new experiences that can create a deeply meaningful and fulfilling life. In starting with The Hidden Roadmap Package, we set out to uncover what the big culprits are that are inhibiting and or blocking on from living and creating in an authentic and empowered way. As these blocks and restrictions are shifted, healed or dismantled, new outcomes and breakthroughs arise, giving way to new possibilities. For those who continue with the Liminal Space Coaching and the Advanced Mentoring, we develop and strengthen the relationship with the Unknown to go even further. The work and play we do here leverages time and space in a way that can radically alter one’s self and reality in ways that can save precious time and energy. If this is something that sounds of interest to you, I highly encourage you to reach out to me to learn more.